Anyone can always appeal anything. The question is whethr or not he would 'win'; the chances are that he would not.

There are federal laws against sexual harassment. This falls under sexual harassment assuming they can prove it came from him. They can't afford NOT to fire him.

Consider what would happen if he DID win. He would walk in the door; he would go back to his desk and a week later, maybe two, he'd be terminated in a 'downsizing' of one -- or maybe he'll be terminated for eating at his desk, for getting to work 45 seconds late, for being dressed too casually, or for not being dressed casually enough; for letting the phone ring 3 times instead of two before he answered it.....you get the drift.

A friend of mine just got terminated from his job for a email he sent to a female employee months ago. The email could be offensive to some. Can he appeal this?

Even if you had separate property and a pre-nup, it ceases to be separate property if you mingle it. Example: I own a house, I re-marry, my new spouse lives in it, helps pay the mortgage, and paints it yearly. The judge may either decide it is community regardless of the pre-nup, or at a minimum he will decide that my new spouse has a right to part of the INCREASE of my community because of the value of his contributions. Whew.

No, that does NOT mean I got married but believe me it DOES mean the subject of property comes up now and then. Everybody worries about it.......on both sides.

Yes, your spouse has to support you......just as YOU have to help support HIM. And any debt that benefits the two of you that either of you acquired after marriage is a joint debt. In other words, if he buys a boat and you ride in it once, the judge may think it benefits you. (OR.....if you hate to have him home and he goes out in the boat a LOT then I might argue that boat benefits you more than him!) Just examples.......

Thank you 3kidsmom. You don't sound cranky, just a bit frustrated. :)

The reason I said what I did regarding the insurance switching is because a friend of mine, a retired attorney, told me that if the change benefited him, then a judge might look more favorably toward making him continue medical coverage after a divorce.

One way or the other, I'm sure 100 years from now it won't matter a bit!

Until I can line up my ducks, I think I will tell him outright he better put his dogs in the kennel when he leaves home because when I get ready to go somewhere, I'm gone and to heck with his dogs, AND him.

The pre-nup only covers what was his/mine prior to marriage and the interest it earns. If I'm not mistaken, Louisiana law already considers premarital property as not being part of the community.

Thanks again. Hope you're feeling better today.

If he keeps his mouth shut about it, how would they possibly know?

whether you talk to us or an attorney -- and you still need to talk to an attorney -- 90% of what you are posting is irrelevant. Please take this like you would take a stern teacher talking to you and not me being mean (although I AM cranky today).

You cannot afford to pay an attorney to hear most of this stuff. Very very few people can. You only want to tell him or her the stuff that is important. Here's what's important.

1. You've been married X years.
2. You signed a pre-nup and it is 'filed' (where? with a court?)
3. Your husband won't/doesn't support you.
4. You want a divorce (if you do) but you need the medical insurance.
5. The attorney who did the pre-nup has been suspended for misdeeds of some kind.

Take a copy of the pre-nup with you.
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I have been divorced more than once; many of us here have. Let me tell you something from the heart. If you are not ready to leave this guy because the dogs would have to go to a kennel -- then it's not bad enough yet. Does that make sense? Either you still love him in your heart -- or you don't WANT to leave yet. As his wife, you're entitled to be on his insurance, period, unless the pre-nup says he doesn't have to provide you ANYTHING.

Only you know what the pre-nup says -- or why you signed it. In the end, the judge will make a final decision as to whether or not the pre-nup is valid, who gets what, and who pays what. If you are ready to leave, see an attorney. If you are not, re-read your pre-nup and see if it says anything about insurance -- we can't tell you what the pre-nup says.

A reminder, this is practical advice from experience and not legal advice

Thanks 3kids!

Should he be "concerned" to see an attorney? It was mentioned to me (by another friend) that he would probably get fired for that.

I'm very sorry I posted incorrectly. Yes, I did sign a prenup. It was a form printed off the Internet. We went to his lawyer/friend/former step-son whom he has a close relationship with. The lawyer was outside when we drove up. He was leaving his trashy looking office. We all stood outside as he read it, never said a word and asked two people who were in the parking lot to witness it. That was it. My husband had it recorded.

I sold my house and moved into his as he told me he didn't want to live in the town where I lived. I had medical insurance through my late husband's former employer (in fact, my current husband retired for the same company). I was covered within a certain network but not in this area. My now husband said he would never drop me if I got in his plan so I could use doctors here. (Once a pensioner's spouse drop his/her coverage, they can not get back in.) So now I'm at his mercy for insurance and he told me he would NEVER drop me but now says he will.

So my question is, since I dropped my coverage because of what he told me, and I can't get it back, is there anyway legally to make him keep me on his insurance or provide me with coverage after a divorce?

Thank you very much and again I apologize.

PS, this lawyer has been indefinitely suspended by the State Supreme court over some other matter. I am here to keep an eye on the dogs. We live in the country on several acres but I can't leave the dogs without putting them in a kennel and that's where the problem comes in. They are always bruising me, not their fault. So I just don't leave the house.

when you post, ask one question at a time -- and use paragraphs. This is too long to easily read.

It sounds like your husband has carefully kept the community separate. Did you sign a pre-nup agreement or an agreement that you would have separate finances?

Aside from that he cannot take you off his insurance until he gets the community ended (if it is a community). He may be required to carry you on his insurance anyways, depending on the judge, until the divorce is final.

You need to see an attorney now.

EDIT: he cannot make you do things like take care of his dogs. Why are you doing things that you know are beyond your capacity? Take care of YOU, he is taking care of HIM.

he needs to speak to the union rep AND see an attorney.